Our trauma biography
Based on the identity-oriented psychotrauma theory
Who am I really? Often we live in an illusory identity and define ourselves by our profession, our children and other relationships. Early traumatization has especially caused us to split from ourselves at a very early age. This is an endogenous mechanism that allows us to survive after a traumatic experience.
Thus, in the trauma of identity, we experienced not being wanted early on in our lives. Often entanglement is the result. We can ask ourselves the question, have we really been accepted and loved as we are? And - Can I accept and appreciate myself as I am?
Every life begins with a relationship, namely with the relationship with our mother. Did we actually get the love and care we needed? This primary experience is reflected in the relationships we later enter into with another living being.
This is where the trauma of love shows up.
Can we have real and constructive relationships? Are the contacts and relationships I have good for me? This is not just about interpersonal relationships, but above all about the relationship with ourselves.
If we have experienced a wound in our sexuality, then we speak of the trauma of sexuality .
As a result, we avoid sexuality or do not know what is good for us. Sexuality is more than just a physical and sexual exchange. Pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding are just as sexual, which means that a wound can show itself in many ways, especially in women during this time.
We have known for a long time that body and mind are a unit. However, it is still difficult for us to question our mental health when we have an illness and to include it in the treatment. Much more, we save ourselves with conventional means and undergo a large number of examinations. Experiences of trauma in particular can manifest themselves in physical symptoms. Our body is talking and we just have to ask it.
If we not only fight against our own body, but also damage, injure and traumatize other living beings, then we can experience the trauma of our own perpetrator .